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My birthday weekend

Monday, February 23rd, 2009

Right.  So my birthday was this weekend, for those few of you who didn’t know.  It was on Friday.  Since I normally work from 7:30 to 11:30 on Fridays, I decided that I would take some vacation time and sleep in on my birthday.  Because I can.  It’s nice having an employer who actually cares enough to give vacation time.  I had a very enjoyable morning waking up in the light curled up next to my husband.  And then he got up and went into his office to start working.  I dozed for a while longer, enjoying the luxury of sleeping in while he got up for work.  It made for a nice change.

It was a mostly relaxing day.  I spent most of it cleaning house.  With colds hitting us both and Justin’s eye still bothering him and just general laziness all around, the house was a complete wreck.  We ran out of clean plate and cups on Thursday.  It’s a little embarrassing, especially because it’s just the two of us.  If we had children, that would be much more excusable.  But we don’t.  So I ran the dishwasher.  Emptied it.  Filled it again.  Ran it a day later when we finished filling it all the way.  And I vacuumed the floors and dusted surfaces.  By the time I was done, the house looked amazing.  I kept walking into the kitchen and exclaiming, “Just look at this beautiful house!” for the next three days.  I think I’ve gotten over it now.

So I cleaned house, which was wonderful.  And I opened presents from my folks and cards from my friends and relatives and a package from my friend Sara.  I talked with my sister and my mom on the telephone.  I went to the post office to mail a few books out.  It was a gorgeous sunny day and I enjoyed it thoroughly.  I missed a couple calls in the evening because I left my phone upstairs while we went down to eat dinner and curl up to watch “Dollhouse” on TV.  (Good show, by the way, and if you’re not watching you totally should, if only because I want Joss Whedon to have solid work again because WE LOVE HIM!  And Eliza Dushku and Amy Acker.  LOVE.)

Saturday, though, was really the day we celebrated my birthday.  We, once again, slept in gloriously late, enjoying the sunshine and warmth and mmmmm-goodness of just not getting up with an alarm really early in the morning.  We puttered around the house just doing random stuff until 3:30 or so when we went to the Nike outlet store in Tanger Outlets where Justin bought me a new pair of running shoes for my birthday.  I *LOVE* my new shoes.  My old shoes are probably three years old and the heal is worn away and there’s no support and they’re terrible, awful things.  These are whole and comfortable and supportive and oh, so wonderful!  And they have pink detailing on them which is adorable!  And totally matches the music player I bought because, you know, that totally matters!  *Nods*  (But the funniest thing is that Justin was going to buy me the music player for my birthday, and then I went and bought it for myself.  And then I got checks from my aunt and grandma and said, “I’m gonna buy some new shoes!” and Justin said, “NO!”)

After getting my fantastic new shoes, we went out to the Island and went mini-golfing.  I used to go mini-golfing with my grandparents over the summer when I was little, and it’s probably been a good 10 years since the last time I went.  Justin, poor man, is wearing an eye patch over his hurting eye.  Which means, obviously, that he has no depth perception.  We played two courses of 18 holes.  The first course, I beat him by something like 8.   The second course, he beat me by greater than 10.  With one eye.  This is definitely not my sport.  But lots of fun!

After getting my butt kicked, we went to Fudruckers for dinner.  Sadly, the Fudruckers on the Island doesn’t have tricked-out nachos, but the burgers and frings were still really delicious.  We actually had to rescue our meal from another couple who was about to walk off with it.  Let this be a lesson to all of you—check the name on the order before you walk off with it.  Or a grumpy lady will scowl at you and ask you to give back her burger.  And then be grumpy at you.  Grrrrrrrr.

Back home after diner because we were both so full and tired from the afternoon’s activities, we lounged around for a while.  I talked with my dad for a while, which is always enjoyable.  I popped in “The Last Mimzy” and watched that.  We made a cake while I was watching the movie.  We didn’t have 29 candles to put on it after we’d frosted it, so Justin took the candles that we had and cut several of them in half.  Just so he could make me blow out this massive flaming ball of fire over my cake.  With one blow, I’ll have you know.  He was mildly impressed.  I was highly amused as he plucked out the candles, several of which had burned down to level with the cake.

All in all, a really fantastic day.

Sunday was not nearly as lovely.  We got up with the alarm so we could get to church.  We got up, got ready, went down to the door, and sat on the steps looking at the door.  And decided that as long as the youth pastor wasn’t leaving that day, we were going back to bed.  We checked the online newsletter, found out that it’s next Sunday, and curled back up.

Not because we were that tired or that lazy.  But because our heads were pounding that painfully.  And we knew that the lights and the noise of the music and everything else just would make it worse.  So instead of inflicting even more pain on ourselves, we took some Advil and went back to bed until the Advil kicked in.  Closed the curtains and the shades to let in as little light as possible, moved as little as possible, and sat around the house for the day.  We watched a couple episodes of “Bones” together.  “Con Man in the Meth Lab” was really fantastic; one of the best episodes we’ve seen in a while.  Justin showed me where I could watch NCIS online and I watched several episodes on my own while he poked at his computer.

While waiting for the shows to cache, I dried and folded the laundry that Justin loaded in to the washing machine.  The laundry had started to resemble the kitchen in its messiness, so it took several loads to make it all the way though, but we did succeed in that.  I still need to do the ironing, and there weren’t enough whites to run that load, but we plowed down the mountain of laundry outside the bathroom and that’s impressive enough.

I also made a loaf of bread using a mix that I picked up.  Wheat free, so it’s kind of strange, but I was in the mood for bread without the energy to make it, so it was good enough.  Some butter on there, maybe a little cinnamon sugar, and it’s fantastic.
And that was my birthday weekend!  I forgot to set my alarm this morning after turning it off for Friday morning, so Justin woke me up this morning by saying, “Hon?  It’s 7:00!”  To which I whined, “Craaaaaap!” and flew out of bed and to the shower.  I’m supposed to be at work at 7:30, just for reference.  And *if* I don’t get stuck behind any trains on the 5 tracks I have to cross, it takes me about 20 minutes to get from home to the parking lot and another 5 to get from the parking lot to my desk.  So.  Not the best way to start the week.  But my hero husband made my lunch and turned on the kettle so I could have tea in the car and saw me out the door before going back upstairs to see about getting ready for his morning.

I promise I do intend to write about things other than just what I did on a given day.  It’s just that this is usually the easiest thing to write about and people generally seem interested to know.

But if I was to write about something else, like, for example, organizing?  What would ya’ll like to know?

For my next post, I intend to write about my list of 29 things to do before I’m 30. And follow-up on my list of 28 things to do before I’m 29.

Stay tuned!

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Grace in Small Things (19 – 22 Feb 2009)

Monday, February 23rd, 2009

2/19/09
I’ve lost this day.  I know it wasn’t a bad day, but the only memories I have of it start after I got home from work.  So I remember being happy about going to yoga class.  And that’s about it.

2/20/09 – Happy Birthday to me!

  1. Instead of going in to work, I took a vacation day and stayed in bed.  I didn’t sleep in as long as I thought I might, but it was fantastic waking up slowly next to my husband, and then staying in bed while he got up and started working.  He worked from home, which was also lovely.
  2. I got presents!  From my parents and a good friend.  Everything was so great!
  3. After living in a wreck of a house for a week, I finally got around to washing all the dishes and vacuuming the floors and dusting and by the middle of the afternoon, the house look really fantastic.
  4. I got to have really lovely conversations with several members of my family.
  5. We watched the second episode of Dollhouse, Joss’ new project.  It’s very good and everybody should watch it so Fox doesn’t take it off the air and we can finally have something Whedon to watch again!

2/21/09

  1. I managed to sleep in a looooooong time and it was fantastic.
  2. Justin took me out to buy brand new running shoes as my birthday present.  I am SO EXCITED about these shoes.  I haven’t had good running shoes in a long, long time and these are awesome.  And they have pink details, which is also fabulous!
  3. And then we went out to mini-golf on the Island and it was so much fun!
  4. We had dinner out at Fudruckers, who failed to have tricked out nachos but still had wonderful hamburgers.
  5. Justin and I baked a cake and he cut up the few candles we had in the drawer so he could light 29 of them for me to blow out.

2/22/09

  1. Con Man in the Meth Lab was probably one of the greatest Bones episodes we’ve seen in a long time.  (And yes, we’re still that far behind.)
  2. Justin showed me how I could watch NCIS in order on the computer.  I’m so happy!  My headache and I spent a lot of our time together watching this.
  3. I picked up a bread mix without flour back a week ago when we were on the whole stupid diet.  And I wanted bread.  So I figured I’d see how it turned out.  Answer?  Not bad.  But odd.  Good enough for one loaf.
  4. I love Advil.
  5. We got all the laundry (except the white load that didn’t need to run) all washed, dried, and folded (except for the ironing).  It was a lot of laundry and took a lot of the afternoon and evening.  But we made it all the way through.
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Grace in Small Things – 16 Feb through 18 Feb

Thursday, February 19th, 2009

2/16/09

  1. Coffee
  2. Finishing a major project
  3. Three hours of NCIS
  4. Leftover Chinese food
  5. Soft, warm socks

2/17/09

  1. My navel is not bleeding today.
  2. Yummy rice for lunch that helped settle my upset stomach.
  3. Strawberry flavored cough drops.
  4. More leftover Chinese food.
  5. Going to bed early and falling asleep very comfortable.

2/18/09

  1. Deciding to go off the stupid elimination diet.
  2. I look fantastic today.
  3. I smell great, too.  I smell like home, the laundry, linen, and sleep scent of the bedroom.  The smell that makes the house *ours* instead of Pam’s.
  4. PIZZA for dinner.  Oreos for dessert.
  5. Really fantastic fun with friends online.  I rolled a 29 on my bluff check and instead of being totally eliminated by the 3 goons behind the door, I convinced one of them to “walk me home” and the rest of my party ambushed him as soon as we came through the door.  Sadly, they wouldn’t let me try it again.  I really think we could have taken a second one.
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Feelings of accomplishment through letting things go

Wednesday, February 18th, 2009

I’ve made and followed up on several decisions today and I’m feeling rather powerful about it.

I decided to let go of Wake Up the Muse.  I started it ages ago thinking it would be a fun project to help me in my writing, while also encouraging others.  And it was fun for a while and I had a few other people join me in it.  But for the last while, probably almost a year, I haven’t tended to it like I feel like I ought to.  And not tending to it made me feel guilty.  Now, what’s the point of keeping something that I don’t feel like working on and feel guilty about whenever I think of it?  It’s not as useful as I thought it might be and it doesn’t have a significant following.  So I pulled the plug.  I put up a note saying that I’m stepping away from the project and I’m not going to worry about it any more.

Justin and I decided to hold off on chiropractic care for a while.  I emailed the office this morning and let them know that I wouldn’t be scheduling an appointment until we’d saved up the money that we would need to cover the care that they’re recommending.  We do plan to eventually go back and get things worked on, but not until we know we can afford to pay for it all and still take care of other expenses.

We also decided to go off this stupid wheat and dairy elimination diet.  While chatting last night I remembered the futility of the whole project (no matter the results, nothing is going to change) and the frustrations involved. After curling up in bed and talking about the foods that we really miss, I decided that I’d rather just not know and stop worrying about it and go back to life as normal.  It was interesting.  It was frustrating.  And I’m beyond ready to be done with the whole mess.  And eat chocolate.  Ice cream.  Cheese.  Bread.  Pasta.  Breaded chicken breast.  Birthday cake.  Pizza.

Of these three, the chiropractor is the only thing that I plan on going back to.  I’ve got other writing goals and projects and I think they’ll go further than the website.  Abandoning the elimination diet means I can get back to my normal diet and try to get back to logging my food and losing weight again, as soon as I kick this cold that leaves me too exhausted to exercise.

The chiropractor, though, seems like a really good idea.  My insurance will cover quite a lot of it, just not as much as we’d really need it to cover.  We’re looking at needing a good $1000 of our own money to cover the rest, at the very low end of the estimate.  And while the FSA will reimburse us for that amount, we didn’t stash away money with that expense in mind, so there’s not quite enough for that and all the other expected expenditures.  So, along with all our other savings and debt-reduction projects, I’m also going to start saving money away for us to take care of this.

Justin’s going to bring home pizza, milk, and Oreo cookies tonight, to celebrate the end of a stupid idea.  I’ve got several pages of writing sitting, waiting for review and edit.  And I’ll add a column on the budget spreadsheet to track chiropractic savings.

I’m wearing black, wide-legged pants that float a little when I walk, topped with a black turtleneck.  Over that, I’m wearing a lavender scarf/pashmina following one of the styles in Amy’s video reference.  I feel slender.  I feel stylish.  And I feel beautiful.

Also, my navel is looking really fantastic.  It was a little irritated this morning, but looks better now.  It’s already much better than it was just a couple days ago.  The piercing holes are not nearly as purple and it hasn’t been oozing at all.  And I’m pretty sure there’s no smell!  Now, if that’s not an improvement, I’m not sure what is.

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TV makes me cry.

Monday, February 16th, 2009

NCIS, the show that I love but only watch upstairs in the bedroom, which means I never actually save it on the DVR thing so am only able to watch it when I find it playing on real-time TV, is wonderful, but it makes me cry.  I’ve been watching it for a while and, because I only watch it when I find it, totally out of sequence and totally at random.  And I’ve seen two characters get killed.  And both times, even though I really haven’t spent a lot of time with these characters and haven’t seen their character developed in any sort of rational sequence and so really don’t know them very well at all, have made me absolutely cry like a little baby.  Quietly so I can watch the show, but with snot dripping down my face because, dang it!  They made Abby cry again!  And me!  And McGee is all sweet and Tony’s all angry and Gibbs is fierce and gonna avenge them.  And I just want to sit with Abby and her farting stuffed hippopotamus and cry!

This is how I know it’s a good show.

When Justin and I were working our way through Buffy, we hit the episode called “The Body” and if you’re at all familiar with the show you know why I’m bringing it up.  I bawled and bawled after that.  Like, sat on the couch shaking while Justin whispered comforting things in my ear bawled my eyes out.  And Whedon did that to me so many times–when Amber died, when Oz left, when Fred died, when Wash died in the movie, again and again and again.

Good TV.  But rough on me.

I have no idea where I’m headed with this.  Just that I got done with NCIS a few minutes ago and, after sniffing a few times, giving Justin a kiss and a hug, and poking at my computer a few minutes, I wanted to write about it.

It’s been an unpleasant couple of days.  We’ve been sick.  Not anything diagnosable or something we can medicate and just be done and over with, but this awful, lingering nastiness that just won’t shake.  Justin’s eye infection came back with a vengeance and he’s seen both our ophthalmologist and his internist about it.  They’re running more blood work to see what they can see, but until then, he’s putting in eye drops and wearing an eye patch when light gets too painful.  And taking Advil to deal with the headaches.  I’m eating cough drops and drinking tea trying to keep my voice and pull the cold out of my chest, so very tired most of the time.  I don’t want to talk about Valentine’s Day.

Still, things aren’t too bad.  Our insurance is fantastic.  One of the prescriptions we picked up on Saturday didn’t even have a copay.  We’re both still able to work.  Justin can even work from home, which is great.  My birthday is in a couple days and I’m completely avoiding the normal freak-out when I get all depressed and think that no one’s going to remember or care.  Yeah, I do that.  I’m pretty sure I mentioned it last year.

I took out my navel ring tonight.  I looked at it while in the ladies room at work earlier today and realized that it was bleeding.  Not from the piercing itself, which isn’t uncommon for me, but from a split in the skin behind the piercing.  It’s migrated forward leaving a funky little trail behind it and that trail had split and was bleeding.  It never really healed, though.  The piercing itself has always oozed and been, frankly, a little gross.  Kinda smelly.  I showed it to Justin and we agreed that it was probably best if I just took it out.  Let it heal up.  Get it done again later on if I want.

So I took it out.  Stiiiiiiinky!  Wow, I didn’t expect it to smell like that.  And then I soaked it little, peroxized it a little, put Neosporin on it.  It feels really weird.  I’ve had that little metal rod in my belly for how long now?  Just over three year I think.  Now it’s this hard little knot with little purple holes in my flabby, flabby belly.  Too much?  Sorry about that.  But I miss it a little!  It’s a good call, pulling it out and letting it heal up.  But it’s a little sad.  Gillian, Sara, and I all got those done and mine was the last one to come out.  I can’t remember if Sara got her’s done again or not.

Anyway.  I’m just in a weird mood, tired, not feeling great.  And it’s about 10:00 so I’m going to go take my vitamin and curl up in bed with my book for a while before falling asleep with the light on.  I’ll think of 5 Grace things in the morning.  And I’ll catch up with ya’ll again in the sunshine of tomorrow.

Good night!

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